5 Signs You Need More Self-Love

The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have. With the numerous pressures we face day-to-day, it’s no surprise that a lot of women are finding that they don’t feel good about themselves.

Developing a good relationship with yourself is vital for good mental well-being. Being kind to ourselves lowers anxiety and stress, and helps build self-esteem and resilience. If you fail to develop a good relationship with yourself, you may fall into bad habits like people-pleasing and perfectionism – and you may be more likely to tolerate abuse or mistreatment. So I’ve put together the list below of six signs that you need more self-love.

You Don’t Have as Much Interest

Do you have hobbies and interests that just don’t seem to really excite you or make you feel good anymore? If you’ve recently experienced a major change in attitude towards the things that used to get you out of bed in a day, then it’s pretty possible that you need more self-love. When you don’t take care of your emotional needs and allow stress to rule multiple aspects of your life, the things that you once loved won’t feel the same.

Symptoms like those are found in depression as well. Depression can be a natural effect caused by unfulfillment in life. Maybe you have a job that isn’t satisfying or you’re in an environment that you used to enjoy and now it’s become oppressive. These things can also be signs of a type of burnout. The responsible, self-loving thing to do would be to allow yourself to have more time to relax. It’s important to work, but it’s also important to be balanced.

When that balance gets murky, you can and most likely will get tired of the constant pressure. It might not be a threat at the moment, but things can change quickly, and suddenly you become overwhelmed. Stay balanced, and you’ll be less likely to fry yourself.

You Don’t Forgive Minor Trespasses

Have you caught yourself observing people and muttering unpleasant things under your breath? Misunderstandings happen, and sometimes those things can seem like much bigger issues than they really are in the grand scheme. When you aren’t feeling love for yourself, it’s a lot easier to get caught in a pattern of criticizing others. This habit of fault-finding is a lot different than talking to a friend in a calm way about a troublesome path they’ve chosen.

That kind of talk comes out of concern, where fault-finding is more rooted in a person’s need to put down others so they can avoid looking at their own faults. When people make mistakes, it’s important to remember that no one is perfect, so it’s healthier to extend the same kind of forgiveness that you would want to have. It does nothing to hold onto grudges other than load your body down with stress as well. Have you ever heard the saying,” holding onto a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die?”

Spend some time thinking about how little many of these minor issues will affect your life in the long run. If you know that they won’t do any lasting damage, then it’s probably sufficient to say what you need to say to the person involved and move on. If not for them, then do it for YOUR mental health.

You Feel You Are an Impostor

One thing that we haven’t touched on yet is the internal voice that every person has inside of themselves. Sometimes your inner voice can play tricks on you and make you doubt yourself. The voice in your head might even attack and ridicule you randomly throughout the day. If this is the case, it would be a good idea to concentrate on positive things about yourself more often.

If you don’t love yourself enough, it can lead to bad behavior. Telling yourself that you might be fooling everyone around you and actually living in fear of that discovery is probably a lot let reasonable to accept when you look at the breadth of your actual achievements. Practice positive self-talk for a period of time, and it could help you to gain a more realistic view of yourself.

Less Assertiveness

If you find yourself taking a back seat to things in life more often, not standing up for yourself or making your thoughts heard, that can be a massive sign that you need more self-love. Doing more healthy things for yourself will help you to feel better and be more in touch with your body. When you’re comfortable in life, you’ll be naturally more confident. 

 You Haven’t Been Bathing as Often

One of the biggest signs that you need to care for yourself more is that you haven’t been bathing enough. Lack of hygiene is a strong sign of depression and other related emotional disturbances. Make sure that you create a routine to keep yourself bathed. If you go without basic cleanliness, it can be easy to feel like nothing matters as much. Go out of your way to make yourself feel better and healthy. That alone could be a massive boost to your attitude. When you look and smell good, you feel good.

Do you recognize any of these signs in yourself?

If you do, know that you CAN improve your relationship with yourself. Find out how today.